Beauty and the Borderline

A Journey towards Integration

Distress Tolerance: Alternate Rebellion

You know those times when you have an overwhelming urge to scream “FUCK YOU!” in the face of someone who is trying to tell you what to do, or who … Continue reading

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Distress Tolerance: Pros & Cons

Pros & Cons is one of my favourite skills, because it helps you to make it through crisis situations, and to focus on your long-term goals.  (I consider it the … Continue reading

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I’m writing this because I don’t want to die: Jowita Bydlowska on shame and mental illness | Toronto Star

Check out this great article on shame and self-stigma from Jowita Bydlowska, the author of Drunk Mom: I’m writing this because I don’t want to die: Jowita Bydlowska on shame … Continue reading

March 31, 2015 · Leave a comment

I am tired of mood swings.

I’m sure many Borderlines can relate. I certainly can.

September 27, 2014 · Leave a comment

I always feel like I’m guilty of something – Albert Camus.

Originally posted on recovery network: Toronto:
? ? Sometimes it’s our very being not exactly like them that leads our accusers to regard us as guilty. Sometimes it is our…

September 25, 2014 · Leave a comment

Distress Tolerance: The Dialectic

Before I launch into a special category of Distress Tolerance skills (the “Dialectical” skills, I call them)  I want to say (er, write) a few words about the dialectic, which … Continue reading

March 19, 2014 · 1 Comment


March 12, 2014 · Leave a comment

Kids, Poverty, and Mental Health — CBC

Dr. L (my wonderful psychiatrist) once told me that most people with psychiatric disorders develop them as a result of things that they experienced while young — under the age … Continue reading

March 10, 2014 · Leave a comment

Talking in the Third Person Lowers Anxiety

Do you ever do this?  I must admit, I do it all the time.  Almost every time I look at myself in the mirror, I criticize myself — the way … Continue reading

February 17, 2014 · 1 Comment

Seeing things? Hearing things? Many of us do – Oliver Sacks

So many Borderlines — myself very much included! — have experienced extreme states and emotions that have brought about auditory and visual hallucinations.  Add to this that Borderlines are often … Continue reading

February 5, 2014 · Leave a comment

Here’s What Happened: Part 2, Cinderella, Cumberbitches, and a Letter of Redemption (or, How I Never Met Benedict Cumberbatch)

Here’s what happened (part 2):    (part 1) It’s now the end of July 2013.  For me the worst isn’t over, and I’m groping at anything that will cheer me … Continue reading

September 12, 2013 · 2 Comments

Here’s What Happened: Part 1, The Joy of Cooking (Trigger Warning)

It’s been over six months since I last posted anything.  Here’s what happened (part 1): My Prince, myself, and our son moved into a spacious two-bedroom on March 1st.  The … Continue reading

September 11, 2013 · 6 Comments

Prayers, sort of, for I.M.P.R.O.V.E.

Taking a little break while I move…packing, unpacking, cleaning, a stressed and exhausted toddler, and a silverfish infestation in the kitchen have all kept me quite busy.  Meanwhile, here are … Continue reading

March 2, 2013 · Leave a comment

Finally, research proves BPD brains are wired to ‘feel it all’

Researchers at my own alma mater, the University of Toronto, pinpoint two key differences in the brain activity of patients with Borderline Personality Disorder, reports the NEA-BPD (you can find … Continue reading

February 27, 2013 · 9 Comments

Distress Tolerance: I.M.P.R.O.V.E.

When you find yourself in a situation or experiencing a feeling that is uncomfortable, and you think to yourself, “I really can’t deal with anymore shit right now,” but you … Continue reading

February 21, 2013 · 1 Comment

Mindfulness: Four Free Relaxation mp3s!!

Four free relaxation exercises from the Student Wellness Centre at McMaster University in Hamilton, ON.  Exercises include diaphragmatic breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, autogenic training, and guided imagery.  I have personally … Continue reading

February 15, 2013 · 1 Comment

Distress Tolerance: Self-soothe

The next Crisis Survival Skill on our agenda is Self-soothe.  Many of the self-soothing activities are also things we do to take care of ourselves — to feed our body, … Continue reading

February 13, 2013 · 2 Comments